I'm gonna rant a little.. but that's because I can! :)

I find that I don't blog as much these days. Not that I don't have much things to say.. rather, I have been pretty occupied with work.

I have a new Chairman now and he's extremely energetic. I have to constantly be on my toes and there's just so many things to do.

Life's been pretty mundane these days. I clock in 12 hours of work and by the time I get home (after Isya'), I'd be too tired to do anything but eat my dinner and hit the sack. Tried to read a bit, but even completing a page is a struggle.

But all is good. The work is good. Yes, there are more things to do.. more things to learn..but being busy and occupied is good, no? An idle mind is the playground for the devil they say.. so I guess, NOT being idle is good.

Eh....? *blush*

 Ok... I'm actually digressing.

It's 15 mins to lunchtime and I just want to rant.. because I know that once I come back from lunch, I have a gazillion things to do -- find out more about a gas academy, do my weekly bulletin write-up, discuss manpower issues..

Well anyway.. I sebenarnya nak rant about something that I learned this week.

1. Networking is sooooo freaking important. You just don't know who you will have to approach for assistance. Have more friends. Smile more. Try not to hurt other people or to make them hate you. You just don't know if the person who hates you is going to say stuff about you to your new boss or your new colleague.

2. Which brings me to the next lesson: Watch your mouth. "Maka hendaklah ia berkata baik atau diam". I try to make this my mantra.. but alas, I'm only human. So I often forget that I shouldn't bitch. Again, you just don't know if whatever that you bitched about will get back to the person whom you bitched earlier.

3. Never bermuka-muka. Don't take sides. Like you don't kutuk A today in front of B and you don't kutuk B in front of A. You just don't know if A is gonna confront B about it and it will make you look like a BITCH.

Spot on!

4. Be honest and truthful to yourself. Don't pretend. If you tak tahu, kata tak tahu. Better to say tak tahu than to pretend that you tahu. Kan? At least you won't get trapped with unnecessary questions.

Oh oh.. I'm actually back from lunch. We (Geng Tulip) had an interesting conversation about our dinner menu for tonight.. I initially volunteered to buat sardin makan ngan nasi panas and goreng telur.. but errr.. we all tengah dalam mood nak jaga badan.. so we decided to makan "light light". Hence, my dinner will be 'chicken strips' (which is under category APPETIZER ye.. hahaha) from Spectra.

Well anyway.. baru nak start kerja ni.. and tetiba ada lah pulak this one guy yang forwarded me this link via Whatsapp..

Here's the article --> tersentap jugak mak bila baca ni.. hahah.. tanjat mak!

https://medium.com/better-humans/802c49b9141c

Don’t date a girl who travels

She’s the one with the messy unkempt hair colored by the sun. Her skin is now far from fair like it once was. Not even sun kissed. It’s burnt with multiple tan lines, wounds and bites here and there. But for every flaw on her skin, she has an interesting story to tell.

(This is true. I never cared much about how I look. I don't buy branded stuff and I don't mind carrying my old trustee Napapijiri knapsack to the office. I don't wear make-up - just powder and lipstick - and I'm always in flats. Oh. And yeah, I don't mind getting more tanned if it means I get to sit at the beach or travel to a new place during summer!)

Don’t date a girl who travels. She is hard to please. The usual dinner-movie date at the mall will suck the life out of her. Her soul craves for new experiences and adventures. She will be unimpressed with your new car and your expensive watch. She would rather climb a rock or jump out of an airplane than hear you brag about it. 

(This is half true. I am not a fan of shopping malls but I love watching movies and having simple dinner at the mall. And yes, I would rather listen to the person's adventure - dapat pegang cheetah at the safari ke.. or pergi Machu Pichu.. or stranded at the airport because of the blizzard etc - than ambil kisah dia pakai jam tangan berharga lebih RM20,000.)

Don’t date a girl who travels because she will bug you to book a flight every time there’s an airline seat sale. She wont party at Republiq. And she will never pay over $100 for Avicii because she knows that one weekend of clubbing is equivalent to one week somewhere far more exciting. 

(This is true. I would rather pay a RM300 return flight to Cambodia, than spend the same amount on a dress to wear to the club. Heh.)

 

Chances are, she can’t hold a steady job. Or she’s probably daydreaming about quitting. She doesn’t want to keep working her ass off for someone else’s dream. She has her own and is working towards it. She is a freelancer. She makes money from designing, writing, photography or something that requires creativity and imagination. Don’t waste her time complaining about your boring job.

(How ironic! I was just telling someone a few minutes ago that I'm getting restless here in Sudan. Maybe because it's gonna be my second year here.. and the itch is back. This is by far, my longest position EVER! I was in NST (as a permanent staff) for almost 7 years.. but I've transferred desk a few times. This is my 7th year with the Company but already, this is my 6th position. And my longest. Heheh. And yes, I'm not ambitious. In fact, I'm constantly day dreaming of becoming a freelancer.. to write when I feel like it.. or maybe even write a book.. heheh.. berangan!)

Don’t date a girl who travels. She might have wasted her college degree and switched careers entirely. She is now a dive instructor or a yoga teacher. She’s not sure when the next paycheck is coming. But she doesn’t work like a robot all day, she goes out and takes what life has to offer and challenges you to do the same.

(This is some what true for me. I had a scholarship to study accounting, graduated with a major in accounting and finance but never had the heart to be an accountant. My dream is still to be a freelance writer and to teach English at some third world country like Rwanda or Botswana. Okay. Teaching English in London or Australia to a group of expat children is nice too! Heh.)

Don’t date a girl who travels for she has chosen a life of uncertainty. She doesn’t have a plan or a permanent address. She goes with the flow and follows her heart. She dances to the beat of her own drum. She doesn’t wear a watch. Her days are ruled by the sun and the moon. When the waves are calling, life stops and she will be oblivious to everything else for a moment. But she has learned that the most important thing in life isn’t surfing. 

(This is true but I guess this depends on the age. I think as I grow older, I am beginning to see the need to settle down. To not follow my heart so much and to be more responsible in my decisions.)

Don’t date a girl who travels as she tends to speak her mind. She will never try to impress your parents or friends. She knows respect, but isn’t afraid to hold a debate about global issues or social responsibility.

(This is true. But this doesn't apply to just girls who travel a lot. I think girls should always speak their mind and not to be taken for granted.)

She will never need you. She knows how to pitch a tent and screw her own fins without your help. She cooks well and doesn’t need you to pay for her meals. She is too independent and wont care whether you travel with her or not. She will forget to check in with you when she arrives at her destination. She’s busy living in the present. She talks to strangers. She will meet many interesting, like-minded people from around the world who share her passion and dreams. She will be bored with you.

(This is not true. I do wake up some mornings wondering how I could ever end up in Sudan.. leaving my family and friends. What was I thinking, I wondered? And at night, as I prepare a simple dish for myself, I can't help but wish that I could at least share it with someone.. and then lie down on the sofa together, cuddle up and talk about the day.. and other issues.. *sigh*)

 

So never date a girl who travels unless you can keep up with her. And if you unintentionally fall in love with one, don’t you dare keep her. Let her go. 

(And this is an unfair statement. A girl who travels a lot will one day want to settle down too. Like a bird flying free during the day, it will want to come back to a nest. I know I want to settle down too. I want to start thinking about saving money to buy furniture and decorate the house, instead of saving up for a week's trip to Cape Town or Russia.)

End of article/

So yes, don't be afraid to date a girl who travels. Don't be afraid that she will brag about her travels because really, the more she traveled, the more she will be so humbled realizing that she's only probably visited 3% of the countries in the world.

Don't be afraid to date a girl who travels because she will never get bored of you, even if you've never stepped out from your own Country. If you are dependable, funny and honest, that will be enough for her.

At the end of the day, she's just contented having all those memories of her experiences in her head (and probably in her book / blog). Trust me, all she wants is to come home to loving arms and a warm embrace.